It might seem a little backward that I am just now posting this, but I feel like it would be a good time to talk about it now. A lot of the problems my wife and I had with each other was mainly my fault. I didn’t understand the things I was doing to hurt her, and I was failing as a husband and a father.

For years, I’ve used video games as an escape from reality, a way to cope with stress and issues I’d had with my family growing up. Our whole relationship I disregarded my wife’s feelings whenever I went to the basement to play games on my computer. I watched so many videos on games and talked non-stop about them. I was really obsessed, to the point that it made my wife feel as though she was second to them.

We fought many times about them, and after one such fight, I felt like she didn’t care about my feelings. I felt that she would never care and that we would keep fighting and fighting and eventually divorce because of my feelings. But it wasn’t my feelings that were being ignored. It was hers. She was taking care of our children, our house, and me. She made all my dreams come true, and what was I doing for her? All I was doing was providing her with money to pay the bills, only to leave everything else up to her while I just did whatever I wanted without caring about what goes on around me.

It hurts me now to think back on all this. We fought almost every week. Eventually, I felt disconnected from her. Little to no love for this person who gives me everything. While I just treated her like she did nothing for me.

With God and Jesus with me and coaching helping us understand each other more, I can happily say that I have learned to love and serve her. It is through submitting myself to the Lord that I have learned to submit myself to my wife. She has given everything to me, so the most I could do is give her the same.